HARD ASPECTS TO YOUR NATAL MOON AND VENUS
December 28, 2009 by ravenstarshealingroom
This is a continuation of the prior two articles “How Venus Influences Your Life” and “Diabetes, The Imbalance of Sweetness in Your Life”. We are focusing on hard aspects to the Moon and Venus, related to your self-esteem, self-worth, emotional self and deep-rooted past.
Re-visited from the recent article “How Venus Influences Your Life”
“We can understand Venus as describing what we like, sort of what tastes good to us. But like sweet sugar in the mouth, the pleasure it gives is nice, but might not be very fulfilling. The Moon describes what feeds us. Therefore, it is important that we understand the relationship between Venus and the Moon in our natal charts. If the two are in conflict, extra attention may need to be paid to make sure that pleasure feeds us, rather than leaving us undernourished. by Jeff Jawer
In this particular post, we are looking at an astrological study of two natal charts, focusing on the Moon and Venus. Both individuals were born with Juvenile Diabetes. Both natal charts are years apart.
It was interesting when looking at these charts that each individual’s Moon was situated in Gemini. The choice choosing the charts was totally at random, my brother Leonard, and a young woman Aleisha (not her real name).
Aleisha’s Moon is situated in Gemini, her Venus in Aquarius. Interestingly, both Leonard’s Moon and Venus sit in Gemini. Gemini is a masculine, mutable airy sign, whereas the Moon, associated with Cancer is feminine, cardinal watery sign.
The instability of Gemini coupled with the fluctuating nature of the Moon can show a mom who is a little too changeable and nervous. Aleisha mentioned her mom always seemed to be in a hurry, going this way and that, never slowing down enough to play with her children. “In fact, her mind at times, seemed scattered, hyper….it drove us crazy and made her irritable, antsy or upset. She’d pick a fight with us for no logical reason other than to release some of her pent-up tensions.”
Mutable signs (Gemini, Virgo Sagittarius, Pisces) of the zodiac can have their lives filled with sudden and unusual events and opportunities. If they can flow with this energy great! But if not, it can easily make one feel scattered, confused or frightened of it.
With Aleisha’s chart there are no hard aspects with her Moon, however Venus is a different story. Venus conjuncts Mars as well as squares Pluto. Aleisha suffers from ADHD a disorder that influences the way she learns, moves, relates to others and feels about herself. She’s also a diabetic.
Leonard had many hard aspects to his Moon as well as Venus, which we’ll look at shortly. In the past article we already looked at the influence of Venus in one’s chart. Now let’s take a quick look at how the Moon and the mother are directly connected.
Do you believe in past lives? If you do, then you’ll also believe that at birth you inherit, bring or carry over certain patterns, expectations and beliefs from other lifetimes. The Moon therefore represents our unconscious which houses memories and experiences from past lives and memories, experiences already gathered in this lifetime as well.
To get here and take your first breath, you need to spend a certain amount of time nestled and nurtured inside your mom- two souls simultaneously living in one body. All her thoughts, feelings, angers, fears, joys, inspirations and intimidation’s will have an effect on the health and welfare of your body – in fact your whole genetic structure!
From the moment of birth, the developing nervous system experiences and records our first major imprints, our most frightening profound (heart pounding memories of conditional love and intimacy. The Moon therefore is our emotional self, our deep rooted past that extends back through childhood, through the maternal (mothering) influence and deeper into the cellular memories of your unconscious.
The Moon represents your unconscious instinctive behaviors that govern your basic habits and patterns (eating, sleeping, drinking, smoking, nutrition, etc.). It represents everything that happened to you before this moment and how you feel about yourself now.
Now before I go any further, I don’t want all the mom’s out there to feel that this article is targeting them. After all, I’m a mom too! We aren’t just motivated by mom but our father (Sun) and family as well. It’s just that mom is who we spent most of our time with and who we’re focussing on at this time.
Every experience, every reaction etched into your nervous system and into your personality will come back to haunt you later on in life. Without an awareness of these, our daily energy could end up tangled in past routines and behaviors. Our minds are often driven by our past, our feelings, our needs, our hungers, and basic instincts. Each lifetime is suppose to build on and evolve from what has happened before.
In a natal analysis, all signs, planets, aspects and houses should be considered to get a complete picture. In this case we are looking at old patterns and unconscious responses that influence your emotions/feelings and self image about yourself…which also affects the pancreas…your emotional center that thrives on being understood, accepted and loved. When the pancreas is functioning at its fullest, we feel good about ourselves….at its worst we feel emotionally sad, isolated or lonely. Perhaps from an experience of losses in our lives. To compensate for the lack of love, we overeat which forces the pancreas to produce more insulin. So the pancreas’ main job is to maintain the right balance of sweetness/love in your life.
If you tend to look at yourself unlovingly or beat yourself up when things go wrong, take a look and see if there are any hard aspects to your Moon and Venus.
WHAT ARE HARD ASPECTS
Hard aspects are your best friend! They force you to look at and break old molds of the past, to conquer your fears and redeem and evolve your spirit. They force you into action. But to do this we each have to fight for our lives by separating from our families (for a time) and the influence of the woman who gave us life. Individually we each have to figure this out for ourselves. And one way of doing this, is looking at and studying our birth chart.
Aspects, especially hard aspects contain deep within their core a hidden gift or treasure. The truth is available to you if you open yourself to it. And opening to it can stop the vicious cycles you’ve been creating by understanding how to use their energy positively.
A QUICK LESSON ON CONJUNCTIONS SQUARES AND OPPOSITIONS
A conjunction is when two or more planets are in or very close to the same degree. The planet(s) involved have no means of escaping the colors, qualities and characteristics of the other(s) which creates an unbreakable bond with each other. An example of this could be likened to Siamese twins….what one twin wants, wills or desires will impact the other. If they don’t agree, a struggle ensues until they compromise OR one or both surrenders to the other.
A square is an angle between two plants of approximately 90 degrees…..the planets are approximately at right angles to one another within a person’s natal chart. This difficult and challenging aspect can block, impede, frustrate and hinder the planet(s) expression. It’s kind of like two people constantly aggravating, pushing and pulling each other because of their values and needs are different……they just don’t get along.
From studying different charts, I’ve seen two distinct types of squares emerge in a natal chart (and there’s probably more). The first one seems to originate from an individuals family history, background, habits and self image which is, in most cases poorly developed. The individual finds him/herself having to perform under pressure; he/she can’t just be themselves. Fear holds them back from exposing their true feelings…..fear of ridicule, judgment and isolation. Therefore, he/she will tend to “overcompensate” the energies involved by being vain and grandiose on the one hand, and touchy and combative on the other to defend their boundaries.
The second type of square deals with the outer world and what drives and pressures us to make a name for ourselves socially and publicly. Depending on what planets are involved, reveals how far we will go to fulfill this need. In some instances we will create conflicts, struggles and scraps with others to acquire the honor and prestige we crave.
Squares and conjunctions are usually seen expressed too forcefully, abruptly and often rooted in feelings of resentment and vulnerability. We discussed resentment and vulnerability in the segment on Diabetes and in the one prior on how Venus influences our lives.
However, these aspects can be very dynamic and productive as well, if we constantly and continually work at it. It is like having to work with a handicap, of having to constantly run uphill. Both squares and conjunctions aren’t comfortable to have and they aren’t meant to be either. They challenge you to the core.
An opposition is an angle between two planets of approximately 180 degrees where the planets literally oppose one another in your chart. This aspect deals with difficult and challenging relationships as both planets strive to parade their own individual wares and won’t think twice about ‘shooting each other in the foot’ to prove it!
If you have oppositions in your chart, then you’ll find yourself dealing with relationship issues as oppositions have a tendency to release certain aspects of ourselves that we learned to repress as child. We did this of course to be accepted and loved by others. Oppositions are where we befriend our shadow side, the undeveloped and rejected aspects of ourselves. Oppositions also force us to compromise as each planet involved must be willing to accept each other on their own terms, without judging or trying to change the other.
What all this means is that oppositions will attract to you, people who seem to be overly independent or dependent, , selfish, whiny, fretful, anxious, insecure, restless, paranoid, jealous, possessive and the list goes on and on.
What this challenging aspect wants is to develop empathy and compassion for another. The opposing planets wants to awaken and integrate what we have denied in ourselves.
When we can do this, we’ll no longer need to get what is missing in ourselves from our relationships and we’ll no longer see each other as the enemy.
Aleisha has always been plagued with self-doubt and self-worth….at least that’s what she believes to be the case. Her mind is always going, thinking of new and exciting ways to do something….she gets all enthused then bam, worries how mom will respond to these new ideals and finds herself at a crossroads. What Aleisha is doing is seeing how mom will react before she makes any decisions. How could Aleisha even predict her mom’s response?
VENUS SQUARE PLUTO
One attribute I’ve seen with this aspect is being afraid of authority figures and feeling or being over-powered by them. This aspect also cries of not feeling loved while growing up. This placement can be cold and harsh at times.
Some people with Venus square Pluto remember mom and dad punishing them not because they did anything wrong but because the parent(s) displaced their anger on them. Growing up in this kind of atmosphere the child developed a sensitivity and lack of trust to others and their immediate environment. These children learned to scan people and their surroundings for threatful conditions that they believed could harm and embarrass them. It was also their way of staying clear of powerful people.
Stimulated by fear, Aleisha confuses caution for control. Coupled with self-doubt and fear she soon loses sight of her goal. This also explains the many projects never finished and dreams, insights unrealized.
Venus/Pluto aspects relate to power, abuse, threats to relationships, betrayal, rage, jealousy, and possessiveness. Aleisha has difficulty trusting others because she was so deeply hurt when young and her love/innocence manipulated.
When a child senses rejection by a parent they start to reject certain aspects of them self. This creates weaks spots in their development , buried needs and wants become split off from our emotions….they become wounds which aren’t healed but bandaged over.
Some people attract very controlling personalities with this aspect. Robert Hand wrote PLANETS IN YOUTH (an astrologer’s bible) and explains this aspects superbly and mentions we may even choose friends who act destructively towards us. “If this happens, it is only because you have a destructive attitude toward yourself. Your inner psychological drives may also push you into unpleasant situations that you want to get out of but seem unable to. This is why it is so important to understand yourself and not lose your perspective. You always have a choice of walking away from a situation; you aren’t forced to be with anyone.
Some people who master the energies of this aspect turn around and act destructively toward others, just as they were treated badly. You should avoid that course because it will isolate you from others, and eventually you will be alone.”
Robert Hand also notes that this aspect “signifies that you will work out many of your most important psychological problems through your relationships with others.”
VENUS CONJUNCT MARS
Similarities rang true with Venus square Pluto and Venus conjunct Mars. Robert Hand explains that this particular aspect (Venus conjunct Mars) and relations with the opposite sex are important for our development. He also mentions ‘parent of the opposite sex’ but in this case Aleisha’s natal chart seemed directed right at the mother.
“It’s almost as if they reversed roles”, Aleisha said, “my mother exhibits and displays alot of male energy, my father’s appears more feminine.”
Reversing the parents roles, helps us to understand Robert Hand when he writes….
“The patterns of your relationship with that parent will be the basis of your relations with the persons of the opposite sex as you get older. Unfortunately this aspect often means that you have mixed love-hate feelings for that parent. If that is the case, you will run the risk, as an adult, of being drawn to people whom you know are not very good for you, but who fascinate you.”
Oh my god”, exclaimed Aleisha, “this is so true!”
Venus conjunct Mars square Pluto can make a person sexual alluring or sexually attractive to the opposite sex. People with these aspects know they have this magnetic quality about them and they aren’t afraid to flaunt it. But the feminine quality of Venus can be burned up by the masculinity of Mars. For instance, Aleisha longs for a love that is secure but when she finds it, she either rebels against it or become too possessive, jealous and demanding, then she loses it.
All this is very confusing to Aleisha, it makes her frustrated, irritable, restless and dissatified with her life. Binging on sweet foods, comfort and help to control her feelings from exploding, but it creates another problem, her body is suffering. The more sweets she eats the more insulin the pancreas must produce and the more it produces the more her body stores fats.
Eating disorders are connected to issues of love, self-love, self denial, rejection, abandonment and loss. Let’s look at hard aspects to the Moon and how these can affect our life.
Venus Square Jupiter
This aspect shows someone who is extravagant and overgenerous, in everything they do. They have a relentless and strong will that won’t back down possibly which could cause them to be in trouble with the law or authority figures. Leonard used to have fist fights with my dad.
Because of Jupiter’s tendency is to enlarge and expand, your emotions lack depth, feelings are definitely a distraction, as they tend to interfere with your ability to function. Professional success is how you value yourself; you can be stubborn and inflexible; and a bit careless and indulgent. You may have trouble with your weight as you are addicted to rich food and a very sweet tooth.
You are competitive and afraid how others see you, this can cause you to submerge your feelings even further as you work even harder to make a good impression on everyone. You fear being rejected and can be obsessed as to how you come across to others and what they think of you. Issues of being successful enough, competent and attractive enough continually replay in your mind. Thinking everyone is eyeing you, you find it hard to express your own genuine feelings and even knowing what your own feelings are. Acting to maintain an image but not your own real needs and wants, you are constantly adjusting your image to suit the moment. One thing you are very good at is adapting easily into an environment. You are extremely efficient at work and would do well in advertising and fashion. Both these industries know how to package themselves and put together the ‘right look’.
Leonard had diabetes .. he expended way too much energy trying to be someone he was not. Although outwardly it looked like he had it all together, inside there was a inner emptiness. I’m sure that if he had lived passed his thirties, Len would of learned the rest of his chart and how to get in touch with his inner wisdom/child.
Venus Square Neptune
Neptune makes us extremely sensitive, our empathy and sympathy can wear down our emotional defenses and invites others in, leaving us very vulnerable to such things as bullying. Plus Venus square Neptune is always looking for the perfect friend/lover (fantasy) and this can overwhelm others…it’s like you want to get under their skin…to mesh with them. This can create tenseness in a relationship where at some point both people will need to reestablish themselves to get a sense of self by pulling away. But when someone pulls away, the Venus square Neptune sees this as a rejection who has all but given of themselves to the other and now feels taken advantage of or even stabbed in the back.
Hmm self-negation…What do we do when others reject us….we try even harder for someone to like us. We forget who we are and do what makes others happy so they’ll love us. We suppress our feelings because we’re afraid of disapproval/rejection. There is a tendency to misuse alcohol, making our desire to merge with another/others, even more intense.
People with this placement are easily deceived in love and may for example, marry an artist or someone ‘way out there’ without emotional stability or money. This reflects the Venus Square Neptune’s lack of perspective around emotions, finances and self-worth. If you own this placement, you also tend to be drawn to people who need extra love and care. It is your hope that if these people appreciate your love, they won’t run away from you.
“People with Venus-Neptune contacts are inspired by beauty and peace. Commonly, they do not want to know about ugliness or discord. This applies to art, to music and to relationships.
The Venus-Neptune individual is invariably very romantic and idealistic about relationships. They are in love – so much so that there can be great difficulty in maintaining interest in, and commitment to, an ordinary person and the rigours and (let’s face it) unromanticism of the everyday domestic and habitual living with someone. Sue Tompkins ~ Aspects in Astrology
Famous people with Venus Square Neptune http://astrologyforthesoul.com/billstreett/vennep.html
“This aspect is often found in charts of spiritual students. An important incarnation for the individual has to turn deep desire for personal affection into a universal sense of love and compassion. Often personal affections bring disappointment or heartache. Person comes into life with a depleted spirtual bankbook where love is concerned. Does not attract love until his dues are paid. To overcome this aspect there must be a relinquishment of the desire for love; it must be replaced by being Love. In financial sense individual must learn practicality and caution. Could be loss through deception and by giving wrongly.” Isabel M. Hickey ~ “Astrology A Cosmic Science
Venus Square Chiron
My brother Leonard had three hard aspects to the planet Venus; the last one being “Chiron’s wound”. The wound centered around abuse that started when he was a child, which seemed to cause problems in relationships as he grew older. Any kind of abuse can make a child abandon their Inner Self – abuse as well can make any person or child more aggressive and extremely hostile. I wish I would have known him better; being 8 years apart, we were practically strangers to one another.
Looking at the many different different interpretations of Chiron square Venus, I came across one by Barbara Hand Clow who believed a person with this aspect has a ‘Gender Identity Crisis’.
“Chiron square Venus sets up the maximum stress between finding a value system which will enhance spirituality, or just giving oneself over to one emotional high after another. Also, Chiron square Venus usually signals heavy duty past life karmic pressure having to do with gender identity. In the esoteric teaching, we are taught that we choose a particular gender identity to balance male/female polarity, anima/animus polarity. Life is no more than an opportunity for experience so that we can become more evolved. And part of being able to become developed involves experiencing both sexes. Often when we are moving into a gender we are unused to there is a lot of stress, and Chiron square Venus indicates this type of stress. Thus, a person with many male past lives may be bom a female this time or vice versa, and this is often shown in the chart with Chiron square Venus. We also see this frequently when Mars is conjunct Venus in the natal chart. This client may be essentially male trying to cope with being female or vice versa, and astrologers can help the client with in depth Mars/Venus counseling. Often this native will cop out of sexual balancing by becoming gay or lesbian, although he or she might accomplish more by switching genders completely. Or, this native may appear to be gay or lesbian while actually being asexual and adjusting to the situation. In all cases, counseling on Mars/Venus energies in the chart will be most enlightening. The astrologer of Chart 22 has experienced deep emotional conflicts and a great struggle with her powerful animus within. The conflict will tend to resolve at the Uranus opposition. It is very likely she has powerful male past lives and that she is learning to use power with female or Venusian means this time.” Barbara Hand Clow ~ Chiron-Transforming Bridge Between the Inner and Outer Planets
My brother was in a mental institution when I was only twelve years old .. I had no idea if he suffered a ‘gender crisis’. I know he couldn’t hold down a regular job or cook or clean for himself and was in a group home for many years. He wanted nothing to do with parents which unfortunately also involved the whole family, myself included.
“Chiron-Venus people need to first heal their own deep fears of not being “good enough”. They need to learn to love themselves and to make sure their partners are meeting them halfway. They might also be attracted to partners who need help, but with the hard aspects, it might be hard to get back the same kind of attention or appreciation.”
The last time I spoke to Len was a month before he died from a diabetic coma. He told me he was angry at himself for what he had done to himself. He realized he had wasted precious time, missed opportunities and fallen behind others, personally, socially and professionally. He felt ashamed and noted his withdrawal from life was not a way to find himself. He was terribly upset and full of self-doubt. Leonard’s Chiron was located in Libra on the 9th house. Perhaps if he hadn’t died so young he would have healed his wound with Chiron and even found himself as a counselor, helping other couples heal relationships…thereby channeling Chiron’s energy in a more objective/productive way.
HARD ASPECTS TO THE MOON
The Moon’s role is to sustain and to nurture. Its purpose is to protect and accept new experiences, new seeds for growth, new concepts for living. It represents the archetypal mother whose sole aim is to embrace, nurture and protect. In your natal chart the moon describes your early experience with maternal energy (your mother) the emotional impact she had on your life and how her presence or absence has shaped your concern for safety and protective boundaries. Messages delivered early in your life have become the foundation upon which all future emotional responses are based. Emotional fantasies as well as fears have been instilled here. These fantasies and fears can save your life or hinder your progress – trapping you in habits of the past, you no longer accept new challenges our of fear of the unknown. The moon in your natal chart is like a watchdog, always on guard to protect, and always needing to adapt according to your development level at the time. The role of the mother is not to retard growth but protect without inhibiting development. The moon can inhibit growth in its attempt to protect. An attitude based on “what worked then will work now” may feel safe, but if you believe that, you stagnate. The moon is concerned with instinctive emotional survival, yet survival is not growth. A life built around survival becomes a life of stagnation, a cesspool of inactivity.
Harsh aspects to the moon suggest the difficulties you have accepting experiences or changes presented by the slower planets due to unpleasant memories from the past or lack of information. Squares and oppositions will make you confront difficult experiences in order to help you accept change with creativity and to teach you to let go of old patterns. These aspects challenge you to break out of your old ways of responding and to accept the NEW challenges being introduced by the slower planets. These planets and aspects want you to deal with the past and learn, adapt and evolve from this experience.
“Very commonly with these transits, you deal with others doubting your character in your love life, and you could feel like you’re forced into a position of proving yourself. Your first reaction is to do just that prove yourself to a partner or lover. However, you eventually realize how fruitless this effort is. If this transit comes at a time when you are single, it can be a period in which new people in your love life are unable or unwilling to commit to you, who fail to see you as worthy of partnership material.”
“1) Aspects to the Moon colour the anima image and what we experienced via the mother or caretaker. For instance, do we meet Jupiter or Saturn through the Moon (through females or mother)? Are we owning our anima image or projecting it”
2) Planets aspecting the Moon generally describe childhood conditioning, and further define our feeling nature. Are we open, closed, defended, quick or slow to react? The nature of a planet aspecting the Moon describes our instinctive responses to life as well as what we tend to meet in the emotional sphere. The Moon’s aspects will also colour how we care for and nuture others, or how we liked to be cared for.
3) Aspects to the Moon describe something about our domestic life.
4) Planets aspecting the Moon can come out through the body and the way we move. In particular, aspects to the Moon will describe a woman’s relationship to her own body.” Liz Green & Howard Sasportas – THE LUMINARIES MOON CONJUNCT MERCURY
Moon Conjunct Venus
“Different expressions of this aspect can include people who constantly feel the need to adapt to others, those who use roundabout ways to charm others into getting what they want, or people who do everything they can to avoid conflict. The mother or mother figure may have herself displayed these tendencies–using charm rather than directness to get what she wanted, or she may have been submissive and adaptable, always tiptoeing around others so as to avoid conflict. Or she may have been susceptible to charm–the child may have discovered early in life that to get what he or she wanted (attention, generally) from the mother, the most effective vehicle was charm, pretense, and other indirect tactics.” http://www.cafeastrology.com/natal/moonvenusaspects.html
I think too this aspect has artistic if not poetic gifts where a person would express their most deepest feeling through writing or some kind of art form. When hurt the Moon conjunct Venus would be quite panic/anxious about any situation and probably tends to take things way too personally where the heart is involved.
“[Moon Conjunct Venus] In most instances, childhood brought a feeling of abandonment and a noticeable lack of affection, hugging, stroking. The touch becomes especially sensitive and the need for touch quite profound. In some instances a strong mothering, nurutring quality emerges that is beyond objective necessity. It becomes a way of assuring love in return on a very subconscious level. At times the individual may be hurt when he feels he gives affection but does not receive the same measure in return. When this aspect is turned to positive expression, the individual touches the hearts of humanity through his artistry, sense of fair play, and love nature. ~ Astrological Aspects ~ Jeanne Avery
I love the cafeastrology description and agree of the submissive mother – as my mom always seemed to tip-toe around my father who was very jealous of the time and attention she gave my diabetic brother.
Leonard was good-looking, a charmer and loved people, especially women because he felt and understood them. This seems to tie in with Chiron square Venus, where it states he may of struggled with his own physical gender. However, the more I think of this, Len was extremely spiritual/philosophical which tends to be feminine in itself and could describe his difficulty living in a predominately male world.
Another thought, Len was diagnosed with diabetes when he was only 8 years old. The moon rules the stomach and Venus describes the pancreas and kidneys,… together they show wanting something sweet to candy coat hurt or empty feelings. Even abandonment issues.
“Our earliest experience of food and safety, and our first encounter with the lunar principle after birth, is mother’s breast. Although the Moon is really inside us, we first meet it exteriorized in the person who has given birth to us, feeds us and protects us. If mother goes away, then the dark of the Moon has come, and we are overcome with terror of the abyss of extinction. “ Liz Greene The Illuminaries
Moon square Mars ~ This indicates a lot of inner tension and frustrations when trying our best to express our feelings, especially when our instincts are in conflict with them. This may cause us to have angry outbursts when we can no longer take the inner pressures.
Pent-up emotions can later manifest as arguments and confrontations – we may enjoy them as an excuse for self assertion, though they may really be a release of held-in energies. If these emotions become dominant in our life we can suffer from psychosomatic health disorders through repressed anger – espeically affecting the intestine and stomach areas. This repressed energy needs to be released through constructive channels; perhaps self-help techiques, relaxation or meditation.
Moon square Saturn
“The square between your Moon and Saturn indicates that you find it difficult to let go of the past and anyone associated with it. Because of your early conditioning, you are overwhelmed with guilt when you express disloyalty toward someone you have known for a long time. Family matters are therefore very important to you, and you forget few birthdays or other commemorative events. These tendencies show that you are emotionally trapped; it is difficult for you to establish your independence outside the confining circumstances of the home and family.
…The most likely fields of work for you are those that serve the needs of the elderly. Such fields as nursing, physical therapy, housing, geriatrics, food, and public assistance programs are some possible avenues of expression. These areas of endeavor emphasize domestic circumstances or identification with individuals who bring to mind your parents. You could perform excellent work and be amply rewarded for your efforts, and at the same time know that you are filling an important need.” Robert Pelletier
Leonard had this aspect which also contributes to isolation. Usually with this placement we like to keep most people at a safe arm’s distance .. we appear more serious .. we need our space. This may be rooted in one’s upbringing as the moon also represents the “emotional blanket” that is related to the emotions and sense of security that a mother gives us. With this aspect chances are this didn’t happen and if you have this aspect, may of had a sad and love-lacking upbringing, . Of course this will have an impact on a person’s adult life.
Leonard was quite argumentative growing up in the home this too may signify a mother’s coldness. To heal this square you have to trust yourself, trust that you deserve to love and be loved, believe you’re a good person; accept that this is how you grew up and that this has nothing to do with you, and accept that your family did the best they could.
You maintain tensions and frustrations by refusing to release behavior patterns formed during childhood and within your parental relationship. it is your choice, if you wish, to continue limiting your life, but it is not inevitable; limitations are only imaginary parameters which we draw around ourselves as a barrier; they can be erased or expanded. Your creativity is blocked by emotional repression. If you dissolve the barrier and redirect the energies toward positive and constructive channels, then much could be achieved. Finding additional interests and stimulation would be beneficial, showing that the world has much to offer if you open to its riches. Becoming involved with children could reveal new ways to see things; their enthusiasms and sense of wonder could be transmitted to you. With contemporary self-help techniques, visualization, meditation, affirmation, and the availability of numerous ways to release blocked energies, you can transform your life to face the future with positivity and optimism. Once freed from past restrictions, you can uncover your latent potential. ~ Paul Haydn
With this aspect in particular, it makes us very sensitive and fearful of criticism. This could be due to the fact that the mother has or had criticised us for all the things we did wrong (in her eyes). My mother was very hard on her children especially in regards to our success in school. It always made me feel like I was walking on eggshells around her … and this carried over into our adult life too. It’s taken me a long time to understand that there is a difference between constructive criticism and controlling criticism. I think too this aspect also reflects a mother who did very little hugging and kissing with her child/children.
“The Moon-Saturn child generally gets the message very early on that it has to be emotionally self-sufficient. The child receives early messages that they will be loved only if they behave in a certain kind of way; responsible and unobtrusive, staying in the background, not getting under people’s feet…The ramifications of this are that in adulthood, the individual finds it very difficult to react and respond in a spontaneous kind of way because there is a constant, very often barely conscious expectation of criticism. People with hard contacts, and the conjunction too, tend to express their feelings with great caution and a certain defensiveness.” Sue Tompkins
to be continued……